Yakety-Yak - Please Talk Back: By Combining Advice and Erotica, Two Authors are Teaching the World How to have Better Sex

By Mary Damiano
She Magazine

If your baby whispers sweet nothings into your ear, there’s a new book that can turn those sweet nothings into sweet somethings.

Sex Talk combines two things that women love—erotica and advice—in an enticing way that is aimed at spicing up a couple’s sex life. It was written by two experts in their fields, Dr. Aline P. Zoldbrod, Ph.D. and Lauren Dockett, a published author of many erotic stories. The result is a simple, easy to use, frothy guide to opening the lines of communication and clearing the way for better sex.

Sex isn’t rocket science, though sometimes it gets so complicated it feels that way. Zoldbrod and Dockett offer up reminders about things we have forgotten and let us in on secrets we didn’t even know.

Together, they give solid advice on using fantasies, giving better phone sex, how to get sexual again after a dry spell and how to use masturbation for better sex with your partner.

Each piece of advice is illustrated with a sexy story, so readers can better understand how they can apply the sex tips to their own lives.

The authors of Sex Talk recently spoke with She about how they got the idea for the book, how people can apply the advice to their lives and the biggest myth about sex.

LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

Aline P. Zoldbrod and Lauren Dockett had known each other several years but had never met in person when they agreed to collaborate on Sex Talk. In fact, they lived a whole country apart, Dockett in San Francisco (though she has since moved to New York) while Zoldbrod resided in Massachusetts. The two women met when Dockett served as Zoldbrod’s publicist on another book. They found that they worked well together and began a friendship over the phone.

It was Dockett’s idea to collaborate on a book that combined erotica with practical advice on spicing up a couple’s sex life. “Lauren had this brilliant idea, and then when I looked around, I realized no one had ever combined advice and erotica,” Zoldbrod says. Zoldbrod had an unpleasant experience in a past collaboration, so she was initially wary about collaborating with Dockett. “It was so wonderful to have a good experience collaborating,” she says.

Dockett was already working with a publisher who used stories to illustrate advice, and decided that the format was perfect for a sex book. “I had written some erotica in the past and I thought it would be a good idea to combine advice with erotic stories,” she says. “Aline and I had formed a close professional relationship, and I really loved the work that Aline was doing. She also has a marvelous sense of humor, and I’ve found, in working on projects with other people, you need to be able to get along.”

The two writers collaborated on the book long distance by phone and by e-mail. Zoldbrod sent Dockett about 50 different ideas of things that couples experience in a relationship. Dockett then wrote the sexy scenarios, literally short erotic stories that illustrated the behavior or problem. She sent them back to Zoldbrod, who gave wrote her advice on how to work through the problem, using the scenario as an example.

Zoldbrod and Dockett enjoyed their collaboration. “It was one of those magical things,” she says. Dockett also loved her time writing the book. “A couple of years before I wrote a book on depression,” she says. “I got up every day thinking about depression and then I had to promote it. With this book, I got up every day think about sex, write fun little vignettes about sex—I wish I could say it was hard but it was not hard at all. It was a blast and I want to do it again.”

The two women received a big compliment when the editor told Dockett that the book read as if the same person had written it.