Sex Therapist in Boston: Having Sex When Not in the Mood is a Bad Idea
Posted on December 8, 2014 by Aline Zoldbrod
There is a trend lately for sex therapy in Boston to lean on the Nike slogan “just do it” when working with straight women whose desire is way less than their husband’s. Just to be clear, I mean sex therapists telling women to “Just do it” meaning: “Just go along to get along” with your husband, so that the husband won’t feel rejected, be cranky, and act miserable. (This phenomenon also may apply equally well to gay women in long term relationships.) Now, mercy sex (as we sex therapists call it) is a perfectly good strategy to use periodically. But I have to say, my clinical experience has led me to believe that a consistent use of this strategy actually makes the woman’s desire problem worse in the long run. There is a much better, more constructive, healthier and happier solution to the problem of mismatched desire. It just isn’t a quick fix, that’s all.
These Boston Sex Therapy Exercises Can Help Revitalize Your Sex Life
Posted on November 3, 2014 by Aline Zoldbrod
In order to reconnect sexually, the two of you have to reconnect emotionally and re-consider your definition of sex. If your idea of sex these days has morphed into “scientifically timed intercourse,” you will have to tap aspects of your emotional and sensual relationship, which have remained unscathed during infertility.
Boston Sex Therapy Deals with the Reality of Infertility
Posted on October 16, 2014 by Aline Zoldbrod
By Aline Zoldbrod Ph.D.
Going through the experience of infertility is one of life’s greatest stresses. Unfortunately, just as you are going through this terrible situation with your spouse and need to feel close, your sexual intimacy is affected by the trauma of the fertility problems you are facing.
Boston Sex Therapy Notes: Physically Violent Home Affects Sexuality
Posted on September 22, 2014 by Aline Zoldbrod
Greta*, a thirty three year old woman sat in my office, nervously fidgeting with her hair.
“I’m having terrible relationship problems. I’m not sure what’s going on, but it’s making things really bad with my boyfriend. This is the first time I have ever lived with someone. And six months into the relationship, for some reason, I stopped wanting to have sex. I began to feel that it bothered me to be touched… I felt like I was crawling out of my skin. …Actually, now that I think of it, I’ve had trouble having pleasurable sex my whole life.”
Boston Sex Therapist on Painful Sex: How to Ask for Sex to Stop “Right in the Middle”
Posted on August 28, 2014 by Aline Zoldbrod