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From the Bedroom into the Medition Room: What Sex Therapists Want Mediators to Know. Dr. Aline Zoldbrod to keynote the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation’s 16th Annual Family Mediation Institute.
For some couples who plan to divorce, the genesis of much of the fighting, hurt, and alienation that threatens the dissolution of their marriage is sexual.
“Sex is not on her radar at all.”
“He just never wanted to have sex, and it has destroyed my self esteem.”
“She just could not respond to affectionate touch, and after a while, I just could not stand it.”
“He just got more and more into porn. He lied about it. He was never interested in me sexually any more.”
On December 8, 2017, I’ll be talking to mediators about which of these couples might be helped by a referral for sex therapy, before they consider divorce.
Sex Night for Parents with Small Kids it Can Be Done
Originally found on bermansexualhealth.com
OK, folks; it's winter, cold and dark. No one has any money, and none of us knows for sure when things will get better. We need a picker-upper that will raise spirits without depleting our dwindling bank accounts. For a lucky group of people who are parents, that might be sex together, IF ONLY there were some way to get away from the kids.
Here is a solution to this problem. It's an exercise taken from my book SexTalk (p.96, Zoldbrod and Dockett, 2002). Trust me, if you previously liked sex, this strategy works.
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Women: Too Much "Mercy Sex" Will Ruin Your Sexual Relationship
I notice over and over again how other experts and researchers are encouraging women to "just do it" when it comes to sex and addressing desire discrepancies between partners. Now, I believe some mercy sex, and some quickies, are just fine. But I have to warn you not to go with their simplistic advice.
Read: Original YourTango article published in June of 2015.
You might need to learn or to relearn how to like sex, because you have to know what your recipe is -- and you have to insist on getting good parts of it met, to have good sex. (You can use my Body Map exercise to figure out what you like.)
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The Ongoing Quest for Sexual Pleasure for Women
Having reliable orgasms is a worthy goal for women. Sex can still be wonderful even without orgasms, but why not push to get more pleasure? Don't just opt out and have a steady diet of "mercy sex."
There is a new vibrator in town. This one might or might not do the trick for you, but keep experimenting. It keeps you young!
Better Sex with Your Partner - What NOT to Say!
Would you like to have better sex with your partner? In this video I provide some quick advice what NOT to say, which will result in a better relationship, and yes, better sex!
- Dating with E.D. - How to Talk About It (for Straight Men)
- Men: Here Is What It Looks Like to Break Free from Porn Addiction and Reconnect with Your Partner
- Straight Women in Love: It Is Critically Important to Resist the Tyranny of the Erect Penis
- Sometimes Old, Learned Sex-Negative Attitudes Can Ruin Your Sex Life: Here is a technique for overcoming them.
- Understanding Situational Erectile Dysfunction with Sex Therapy: Not All E.D. Needs Viagra. Does Yours?